Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Can you really forgive and forget?

Most of us only have emotional capacity for one or the other.

Forgiving but not forgetting: this is but a temporary solution; placatory filter to hold the broken pieces.
Forgiveness without forgetting is like a silent, latent ammunition. It gives the wrongdoer a momentary peace of mind, but only until the next mistake; then out comes the hidden bullet to tear open old wounds. Deceptive, perhaps. Yet we often choose this route, not so much out of deceit, but simply because some things cannot be erased from memory. The choice of using retrospection as ammunition exists because human beings are often incapable of being magnanimous.

Posted by stash at 1:37 AM